Almost from the dawn of man, there has been hate. Call it envy, jealousy, covetousness, whatever. In these modern times, we call it hate. Hate as we know it takes on all forms and there are thousands of examples of it; for instance, former NFL player Warren Sapp hating on Michael Strahan prior to the latter’s induction into the Hall of Fame. Or rapper Drake being hated on by everybody with a penis. Or folks hating on the interracial Cheerios family.
The point is, everybody’s got something to say about something. One of the most beautiful things about being in America is that we have the freedom to decry whatever we want, whenever we want. As an Alarmer, I think most things are up for scrutiny, challenge, and even ridicule. However, at times the lines get blurred, prompting me to ask: what is a hater?
Whatever it is, haters are pretty popular. The Notorious B.I.G. devoted a good 40% of his second album, Life After Death, to them, including a poorly sung interpolation of a Delfonics ballad. The word “hater” is loosely thrown around by people to dismiss those who dare to criticize something or someone that has accrued any significant following. Is it that simple? People naturally don’t like when someone disagrees with them about something, but Common put it succinctly when he said, “If I don’t like it, I don’t like it! That don’t mean that I’m hatin’!” I guess when you break it down, a lot of what we call “hate” is really just being contrary; going against popular opinion merely for the sake of it. There are some people, and my crew and I count ourselves among them, who like to shake things up just because they can. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, as long as it’s in the interest of sparking a dialogue and even getting people to question exactly why they like something or someone. Blind adoration is dangerous.
Reader, this is a big world. We all have different opinions, and eventually those opinions are going to clash. Sometimes disagreement comes from a place of malice, but sometimes it’s genuine constructive criticism. You’ve got to learn to discern the difference between the two, so you can ignore the former and consider the latter. As much as I like to debate, I ultimately respect most people’s opinions as long as they come from a place of logic, or at the very least are acknowledged as only being based on a person’s actual experience. I think we should all do the same. Not everybody who disagrees with you is a hater.
What should we do about haters, then? Well, the first thing you should do is stop imagining one day living in a world where haters don’t exist. It ain’t gonna happen, cupcake. Hate is a part of human nature, and as long as there are things like twerking, Real Housewives and Justin Bieber, it’s not going away anytime soon. It doesn’t make any sense to give haters any kind of attention. All it does is drag you down to their level; which is, of course, what haters want. A hater’s job is to hate – it’s right there in the title, reader! So let them do their job and stop feeding into that negative energy. Life will go on regardless of whether people hate.